Relationship Problem Solved – Technique 1

Your Relationship Problem Solved – Technique 1 – Ask The Right Questions

 

Using this technique you are going to start to take control of your mind and your life by taking control of the questions you ask yourself.

Soon you will understand why this step is so important and so powerful – in every aspect of your life – to learn to love yourself completely – and to have your relationship problems solved.

This technique is one of the simplest, yet one of the most effective I’ve found to help you make profound changes in yourself and in every aspect of your life.

As soon as you start practicing this technique you’ll find your whole focus changed. And as a result your mood, your energy and your outcomes will also automatically improve.

So now – its time to get started.

You may or may not have noticed that all the time you’re asking yourself questions – about yourself – your relationships – and about almost anything and everything in your life.

For every question you ask, your unconscious mind is programmed to find an answer to match.

The answer may not come immediately.

In fact it’s more likely to come later when you’re doing or thinking about something else – then your mind is free of the question and so has space and time to find the answer.

And the answers you get are not necessarily the truth – they are simply answers your mind found to match the question – by going through all your stored information – all your past experiences, beliefs, expectations and so on.

So imagine what sort of answers you’d get if you asked yourself negative questions in an unsupportive tone – such as:

 

• Why does this always happen to me? Or

• Why doesn’t he ever listen to me? Or

• Why doesn’t she want to make love with me? Or

• How is it that other people seem to have more luck in love than me?

If you ask unsupportive questions – your unconscious mind will find unsupportive answers that fit the question – because that’s what it’s programmed to do.

It will search through all your memories and beliefs, past experiences and expectations and come up with an answer that seems to fit.  

So you might get answers such as:

 

• Because you’re ugly (or stupid or useless).

• Or – because you did something wrong.

• Or – because you’re not good enough.

Any of which will of course make you feel even worse – and the downward spiral into feeling bad and continues.  And of course the worse you feel about yourself – the less you can attract and keep love from someone else – remember you need to love yourself completely to enjoy a truly loving relationship and to enjoy success in every other aspect of your life.

The questions you ask yourself have a huge influence on how you feel, what you notice, what you do, how you experience life – and what and who you attract into your life – so it’s crucial you learn to be in control of these questions now!

Make sure you give yourself the greatest advantage possible by only asking yourself questions that can give you supportive answers.

For example:

 

• I wonder how I can really enjoy every moment of the day today? 

• I wonder how I can notice all the really great things about my partner? 

• I wonder how I can find it really easy to get on with my colleagues? 

• I wonder how I can find it really easy to ask myself only positive supportive questions from now on?

• I wonder how I can notice all the good things coming out of this situation now?

• I wonder how this will turn out to be the best possible thing that could have happened?  (However bad the situation might seem).

• I wonder how I can start feeling better about myself / happy/ content / excited / secure/ successful today and every day?

• I wonder how I can find it easy to love and enjoy my own body now?

• I wonder how I can come out of this meeting feeling really great – having achieved the best possible outcomes?

• I wonder how I can find it really easy to let go of anger, blame, jealousy and fear from now on?

• I wonder how I can find it easy to love myself more and more every day from now on? 

• I wonder how I can notice laughing at least three times today?

• I wonder how I can enjoy every moment of my day today whatever I do?

• I wonder how I can notice feeling totally physically comfortable this morning?

• I wonder how I can find myself living with my true soul mate by the end of February next year?

• I wonder how and when I am going to feel excited today?

• I wonder how I am going to notice three good things about myself / everyone I meet today?

• I wonder how I can notice giving myself praise and encouragement today and feeling even better about myself as a result?

• I wonder how I can enjoy contributing to other people’s lives today or how

• I can help someone else to feel really special?

• I wonder how and when I can notice experiencing loving feelings at least three times today?

• I wonder how I can find I am totally clear about what would make me happiest in my life by the time I wake up tomorrow?

• I wonder what I can feel really passionate about today?

• I wonder just how many things I am going to notice being really grateful for by the end of today?

Make a list of supportive questions you can read through any time you need inspiration – or when you’re feeling less positive – at first it’s not always easy to come up with supportive questions when you really need them.

Notice anything that stops you from feeling completely wonderfully happy and ask a question that will allow you to enjoy good feelings instead. 

For example if you felt frustrated that you couldn’t find the solution to a particular problem – you might ask yourself:

 

• I wonder how can easily and effortlessly come up with the best possible solution to this problem in the next hour?

You’ll find you will be getting plenty of opportunity to add to your list of questions as you go through this course.   Asking supportive questions will make every other part of the course even easier, more fun and more effective. 

To help make your questions as effective as possible follow these steps:

 

• Decide on the results you’re aiming for – how you would like to be feeling or what you would like to be doing – and by when.

 

• Start the question with “I wonder” – or something similarly undemanding and open.

 

• Include “how can I notice?” – to make sure you get the full benefit of the great experience you are about to have as a result of the questions you’re now asking.

 

• Remember to give a reasonable time limit, such as during this meeting, by the end of today?, in the next hour, now and from this moment on – if you don’t your unconscious mind may give you the answer you want – but in 20 years time.

 

• Also remember to keep in mind or to add at the end of your questions – this result or something even better – then you will get what you are asking for or something even better.  Otherwise – if you are only noticing the very specific answer you might not notice you got something even better instead!

NOW:

Think about what happens when you see someone you know and you can’t remember their name – of course the harder you try to remember the name – the more difficult you find it to remember.

But when you stop trying and do something different, your mind is free to find the answer to your question and suddenly you remember.

So do the same with your questions – ask them or read them to yourself – then forget them by doing something else - so your unconscious mind is free to find the answers for you!

Keep your list of questions by you at all times, so you can:

Always take control of your thoughts.

Ask yourself at least 5 supportive questions each morning when you wake up – to set you up for the best possible day – and to get into practice for taking control of your questions during the day.

Add new supportive questions to the list whenever you think of them.

Keep a note of your results – the more you take note of you positive results – the more positive results you will get!

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