Wedding Night Intimacy – Part 2

Remember – if you haven’t read it already – make sure you read your FREE report ‘How To Have Better Sex – Wonderful Relationships & Transform Your Life’ – for even more help on how to avoid problems on your wedding night – and throughout your marriage.

In Wedding Night Intimacy Part 1 – we started to look at some of the common anxieties and intimacy questions about your first night together as a married couple and how to overcome those anxieties. 

In part 2 we’re going to take a look at some practical things you can do to prepare for the big day and the big night!

In part 3 we’ll start to look at specific problems and how you can avoid or deal with them.

For most people the preparation and the wedding day itself can be very stressful and tiring – and to enjoy making love you need to be relaxed!  So here are some ways to make sure you’re as relaxed as possible when it comes to enjoying your wedding night intimacy!

You could plan a small, quiet wedding, so everything can be organized beforehand and you have nothing to do on the day except enjoy.  

More and more people are of course opting for beach weddings – so that all they have to do is turn up and enjoy.    This way you should also get great weather, relaxed guests (or none at all until you get home for an afterwards celebration) and your own luxurious suite to relax and have fun in when it comes to getting intimate.

But – if you’re planning a bigger more traditional wedding – make sure someone else is in charge on the day – so you and your spouse are free to relax and enjoy yourselves.

Meantime, start now and learn strategies to cope with any anxieties and stress you might need to deal with unexpectedly.

If you’re the bride remember to buy beautiful underwear – that makes you feel fantastic.

If you’re the groom make sure your underwear is going to make you and your new spouse feel great too!

Arrange to spend your wedding night close to your evening celebrations – so you don’t waste time and energy travelling.  

At the same time make sure the venue is somewhere you can both feel very comfortable and very special – with plenty of privacy – not in the next room to your parents, relatives or friends!

If possible keep the location secret from well meaning friends and family who might add their own unwelcome surprises to your ‘love nest’.

Make sure to pack bath oil, massage oil, feathers, candles, perfume, music and anything you feel and look sexy wearing.   Taking into account the things you each said you’d like to see, hear, smell, taste and feel when you discussed your desires and hopes for your own wedding night intimacy.

Remember – it’s not at all uncommon – in fact its very common indeed – for newly married couples to be so tired on their wedding night that one or both immediately fall asleep so making love doesn’t happen till the next day – when they’ve had time to get over the champagne and recover their energy.

Talk to your spouse-to-be about this possibility and how you each feel about it.

If you both agree it could be a great idea to wait till the morning and have more time and energy to enjoy making love that’s fine and your wedding night intimacy issue is resolved!

If on the other hand one or both of you would be disappointed not to make love on your wedding day, then discuss how you’re going to make sure this happens.

One of the best ways to avoid the disappointment of a sleeping spouse is to arrange a good time period during the day to ‘rest and change’ – so you can spend time together and make love while you’re both still feeling excited, enthusiastic and full of energy.

If you have a late wedding or can’t fit in this time together and your new spouse does fall asleep before you make love – don’t despair – don’t take it personally – remember it’s been a very long and tiring – though hopefully a very happy wedding day – and most important – you now have the rest of your lives together to enjoy great sex!  

So – get close and love your sleeping spouse – and start planning and preparing for the fun you can have in the morning – while you repeat the clearing phrases you learned in How To Have Better Sex – Wonderful Relationships & Transform your life!

Whenever you are awake and ready to make love together, remember to relax and spend time making sure your spouse is relaxed and feeling totally special – use beautiful words and complements, lots of love and tenderness, erotic music, gentle massage and stroking.  Remember to watch, to listen to and to feel his or her responses.   Tell your spouse how you are feeling and how important he or she is to you. 

This might all sound obvious – but you’d be surprised how many people don’t realize how important this part of making love is.

If you spend time doing all this, the rest will come naturally and easily.   And even if nothing else happens – you’ll still have made beautiful love.

Now make sure you’ve ready your FREE report ‘How To Have Better Sex – Wonderful Relationships & Transform Your Life’ and in Wedding Night Intimacy Part 3 – we’ll be looking at specific problems and anxieties you might still be facing.