Relationship Advice Resources EFT

 

Relationship Advice – EFT

EFT is another very powerful Relationship Advice Tool.

I’ve used taught and recommended EFT – the Emotional Freedom Technique – for many years now – as a major transformational tool for relationships, for health, for abundance, for overcoming fear and in every aspect of life.

Though it’s easy to use the technique on your own, you’ll probably find – as I do – that it helps on occasions to have someone guide you through and help you discover your hidden blocks.

When I want help I go to my favorite EFT therapist and teacher Brad Yates – who’s a great guy.   You can also get lots of FREE EFT RESOURCES at his site CLICK HERE.

The EFT technique is deceptively simple – so simple in fact you probably won’t believe it will work – until you experience the results for yourself.

Most people don’t believe it can possibly work until they witness the amazing results for themselves.

Take a look at the videos below to get an idea of what the technique involves and then try it for yourself following the instructions below.

Here are the basic instructions for you to use EFT – you can then follow along with the videos above:

• First decide which uncomfortable feeling or sensation, thought or belief you are going to deal with – you can use something you are aware of now or one of the things you discovered about yourself from the 6 exercises.

• Be as specific as possible about the feeling, sensation, thought or belief you’re dealing with.

For example, if it’s a physical discomfort, notice exactly you feel it and the nature of the discomfort – for example – whether it’s sharp, or throbbing or aching and so on.

If it’s a thought or belief or feeling notice exactly what you think or believe or feel.

For example, rather than being aware you are generally upset or stressed, notice what you’re upset or stressed about – such as:

•    I’m angry with John or

•    I’m frightened she’ll leave me or

•    I know I’m unlovable

Also notice how strong that feeling is before you start on a scale from 0 to 10.
Where 0 is no problem and 10 is as bad as it could be

During the tapping process you might notice the discomfort level changing or you might notice an entirely different feeling or sensation coming through. 
If you do continue to tap for the newest sensation or feeling or thought.

Tapping 

To watch a video demonstration of tapping – by my favorite EFT therapist and teacher Brad Yates – so you can easily notice where these points are – CLICK HERE.

This is the procedure:

• Find the karate chop point.     

This is the point on the edge of your hand (it doesn’t matter which hand you use) that would come into contact with an object if you were giving the object a karate chop – a point half way between the base of your little finger and your wrist.

• Now use the tips of your fingers – on your other hand to tap gently on this karate chop point.

• While you tap on this point say 3 times to yourself: 

Even though I feel angry / I have this headache / my foot is sore / I’m feeling sad / whatever you’re feeling ….. I completely love myself (or you can say – I want to love myself if you find the first option too uncomfortable to begin with).

It doesn’t matter whether or not the statement seems true, whether you feel stupid doing it, or whether you believe in what you are doing – just do it – you have nothing to lose and lots to gain!                    

• Now using the tips of your fingers of one or both hands tap gently at least 7 times – at each of the following places (NOTE: the tapping spot does not have to be accurate – it works anywhere in the general area described):

ϖ    On the top of your head

ϖ    At the inner tip of your eyebrow

ϖ    On the bone at the outer edge of the eye

ϖ    On the bone under your eye

ϖ    Half-way between nose and upper lip

ϖ    Half-way between lower lip and chin

ϖ    On the inner end of the collar bone 

ϖ    Under the arm directly down from the armpit at the level a bra strap would go round.

• Having completed one round of tapping in this way – you can continue to repeat the rounds from the top of the head while you still have a feeling or thought making you uncomfortable.

• When you feel the block has dissipated or if it appears not to be changing at all – do the assessment of your feeling or thought again.  Where is it now on the scale from 0 – 10?

• If you still have the same feeling or thought but it is less strong, go through the tapping process again, until the feeling is gone altogether or choose one of the other clearing methods if you prefer.

• If there is now a different uncomfortable feeling or thought, assess the new feeling on the 0 – 10 scale and then go through the tapping process for that feeling or thought.

• Occasionally you may find that your tapping appears not to be working.  If this happens it means the physical or emotional discomfort you are using the Tapping Tool to clear is still blocked by a thought or belief you’ve so far been ignoring or burying.

For example if you’re tapping to clear a feeling of anger towards your partner and it doesn’t change with the tapping – then you still haven’t dealt completely with the thoughts or beliefs behind the anger.  

If the feeling or thought has not changed ask yourself:

‘If this had an underlying emotional cause what might it be?"

Listen to the first thing that comes to your mind and then tap for that cause or use one of the other tools to help you clear the block.

If you continue with the tapping and tap for any thought that enters your awareness you will eventually uncover and unblock that block.

Alternatively at this point you might find it helps to use one of the other methods – such as The Truth Tool 

Let me know how you get on using this tool

Love and Best Wishes

Anne

(Dr Anne Curtis)

For more help and FREE EFT Resources take a look at Brad’s website:

EFT relationship advice resources CLICK HERE NOW